How to make it through the Holiday Season Triggers

If you are living in the US, this week is traditionally kicking off the holiday season, which for many of us can be a triggering time.

It’s also a very confusing time. There’s plenty of family gatherings and work events/holiday parties with food being a huge part of it. Yet, most of the conversations revolve around which diet Sally is starting on January 1st to “make up for the holiday meals”…

So, today, I want to give you 3 important holidays reminders, whether you are in the US or in another country, where the holiday season is slowly kicking off.

1. Beware of regressing back into being “the child”

Family gatherings can be a trigger, because we tend to regress back into being “the child”. I still deal with this every single time I visit my family. But being aware of that and reminding yourself that you are an adult now and you are allowed to live your life on your terms can help a lot. If family members treat you like a child, you are allowed to remind them (and especially yourself) that you don’t have to accept this kind of treatment. You know how to take care of yourself and don’t need their unproductive help-attempts. FYI, this was a reminder for myself as well, because I get triggered by this.

Try and have pleasant conversations with family members you feel safe around and remind yourself that you are not who you used to be. Be yourself and be unapologetic.

2. Don’t engage in diet-talk and set boundaries around it

Remind yourself that you are not obligated to engage in diet conversations. You are allowed to set boundaries with triggering family members/friends/colleagues. When I had to set these boundaries I used to say: “I personally am going through a period of wanting to make peace with food, so any conversations about diets are quite triggering for me. I can’t wait to catch up with you on everything that’s new in your life though! How’s XYZ going for you?” If you don’t feel comfortable setting a boundary like this, you can simply excuse yourself, go to the bathroom or text a friend to vent and release some of the pressure.

More on avoiding diet talk in my Q&A Podcast Episode right here. It’s packed with helpful advice on this topic, so tune in for more.

3. Stay in your own lane

Remember to stay in your own lane. Just because aunt Sally or cousin Sam are on the Keto diet, doesn’t mean that you are less worthy than them. They are in their lane and you are in yours. You are looking to find joy in food again and this is your journey. Nobody needs to understand the journey you’re on or get on board with what you do.

I am right here with you, holding your hand in spirit through this holiday season and reminding you to find joy and happiness in the little things. You deserve it so much 🙂

Sending you all my love and if you’re in the US, happy Thanksgiving!! xo

Rini